Your Dream Does Not Have an Expiration Date

At 18 years old, I had a clear vision of what I wanted to be. I imagined myself leading international retreats all over the world to places like Nepal and India. On those retreats, people would dive into the culture and themselves and leave transformed. I imagined myself up on stage inspiring a large crowd of people to follow their dreams. I saw myself working with coaching clients from all over the world. I would be traveling and taking their calls from wherever I wanted to be, unhindered by an office or physical work place. I wrote the entire thing down in my goals journal. I envisioned it all happening…

Then…

I spent the next 18 years doing almost everything but that.

Which begs the question:

“Why is it we resist the very things we want the most?”

My resistance was so strong, it kept me from realizing my vision for almost two decades.

And I had all kinds of great excuses, fears and seemingly legitimate reasons why I could not follow my dream. I even convinced myself for a while that I didn’t know what I wanted to do. Rather than dive right in, I ended up taking the long, circuitous route instead:

  • Studied psychology in college. (Not what I imagined.)
  • Waited tables. (This is a hard way to make money.)
  • Worked in a warehouse. (What the heck am I doing here?)
  • Went to acting school. (I love this!)
  • Wrote and directed children’s plays. (So fun, but no money.)
  • Taught wakeboarding. (Ditto).
  • Worked with autistic children. (Started out as fun, proved to be exhausting.)
  • Saved money to go back to school.
  • Went back to school, took the Medical School Entrance Exam. (Worked like a dog.)
  • Dropped out. (Freedom and poverty.)
  • September 11th happened. (Life is short, screw “someday.”)
  • Worked for Anthony Robbins. (Check!)
  • Saved money to travel the world for a year.
  • Traveled the world. (Check!)
  • Returned home with no job. (Bank account back to zero.)
  • Substitute teacher in low-income schools. (What am I doing here?)
  • Life coach for a minute, then quit. (I had one client.)
  • Left it all to become an insurance adjuster for Hurricane Katrina. (Financial success.)
  • Saved money to start a business.
  • Went to graduate school for Spiritual Psychology. (My first major turning point.)
  • Quit insurance job. (I was having panic attacks at work.)
  • Started Insight Adventures & Coaching. (Take two.)
  • Struggled for two years. (Tried to do it alone.)
  • Almost quit.
  • Got an awesome coach. (My second major turning point.)
  • Revamped the entire way I was approaching work.
  • 2012, I realized my dream!

 

As you can see, my life has not followed a straight-forward path. I had no special connections or opportunities handed to me. Being an entrepreneur did not come easily. Growing up, nobody around me worked for themselves. Learning to listen deeply, (a major skill of coaching) was not something that came naturally to me. Yet, the most challenging thing I had to overcome was a deep fear that I was just a dreamer in the lowest sense of the word – someone who had beautiful visions, but no long-term follow through.

After college, I bounced from job to job, quit acting, walked away from medicine and left the most lucrative job I could ever hope to have at the time. I constantly asked myself, “Who am I to start a business? Who am I to coach others about how to have a meaningful, fulfilling life?”

As a coach, I know what it feels like to live day in and day out with the constant nagging of an unrealized dream in the background. I know how it feels to be at such a low point that ending my own life felt like a viable option. I know what it feels like to be absolutely paralyzed at the precipice of a life-changing decision for months, years or even decades.

I know how it feels to know the truth and to be too scared to act on it.

 

That’s the reason I love coaching now. I had to learn the hard way. Had it all come naturally, I wouldn’t have a clue how to lead others down the path of their Wild & Precious Life.

 

 

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